@phoe There is something to be said about the societies we exist in encourage us to ignore/suppress our emotions and that affects men in a different way than it affects women.
That said, I think there has to be a desire to put in the work to figure out what as a dude who is attracted to women wants from that kind of relationship.
Lack of emotional intelligence is cool. We all start somewhere. But men in particular have a specific resistance to learning and just being better people.