If someone with a disability or a chronic illness or a mental illness tells you something is too difficult for them to do, believe them. Maybe it's something they could do on another occasion. Maybe it's something you find, or even "everyone" finds, easy. Maybe it's something you found trivial to research or learn how to do. Believe them anyway. Maybe it's only three steps, maybe it's a piece of software, or a phone call. Believe them anyway.
Believe people when they tell you their experiences.
@paralithode I believe them if they tell me.
I also believe them if they have issues with asking or resieving for help.
I have not seen this argument is being made.
>Hey, who like to help me to set up the first meeting as inclusive as possible?
I have not seen this aproach being taken. (maybe I missed something).
I have not seen an argument why this aproach was not taken.
@paulfree14 I feel like several people feel unheard by you currently. From my perspective it would be encouraging for you to take some time to reflect on why that might be & how you could have approached that conversation differently.
E.g, if someone w/CFS says to you "What was most cost efficient for me? Doing what I've done." Telling them something else "...wouldn't be a big deal" doesn't inspire trust in me that you are ready to thoughtfully engage w/the perspectives of non-abled people.
@j216 lots of things are okay when we do them in a respectful & consensual way.
It's important we 1st examine our own ideas about–for instance–why we assume we have thought more or know more about someone's accessibility issues than the person who lives w/those issues.
It's also important to respect autonomy & consent. Disabled people are often treated as objects to be managed. We want to help people–which is laudable–but what is more important is to ask whether people want & need our help.