2. If a person of color tells you that you sound racist, you should reflect on it. Don't double-down. Because then, you sound both racist AND unwilling to do anything about it. It's not about your feelings. Your intentions are irrelevant. Don't make it about you and your character.
3. Criticising a person of color for a bad behavior is valid. ONLY criticizing people of color for said bad behavior is racist. Why don't you call out bad actors who are white? Did you not notice? Does it feel more acceptable? Less aggressive? Think about and reflect on why Person A's actions feel "not as bad" as Person B's. If you cannot articulate it, it might be prejudice.
4. Look around. Do any people of color agree with you? (Don't know any people of color? That's probably an indicator.)
5. People of color are human beings with feelings. If you wouldn't say this to Personal A for fear of hurting their feelings, why would you say it to us?
I'm writing all of these with certain people in mind (who swear they are allies and are totally not racist!!!!!) but really can't handle a call-out of "yo what you said/did was racist". This is for yall.
Thanks for writing this, I always feel more secure with some behavioural guidelines
@guerrillablack my favourite analogy so far is stepping on somebody’s foot. to react with doubting their pain, doubling down with silly justifications, or thinking that an apology means i’m conceding something i didn’t need to, is completely absurd.
as it should be with racist things done unintentionally. both are harm without intent.
I'm a white guy, but I'm also autistic. I screw up, and I try to learn and improve communication skills. Too often, people cite intent like everyone else needs to be telepathic, rather than paying attention to what they say and how they say it.
It doesn't help that I'm in a place where "they didn't mean that" is used to defend horrible people with power.
@RecursiveRabbit as a fellow person on the spectrum: heck yes to all of the above!
@guerrillablack oh jesus heck I'm literally doing a video on this exact topic and the people who inspired it are scoring on every single point XD thanks for the handy reference, may link to it in the desc if that's cool with you
@guerrillablack Or non-same-race mutuals, too. I've personally experienced racism from non-whites. I'm a half-breed, so I get it from both sides, and from non-sides.
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