I like talking about challenging and difficult topics because that's the quickest path to a solution. Engaging the hard things is only path through them.

I feel like a lot of times there's just a preference to 1. ignore the problem altogether or 2. just be a nihilist and believe there isn't a solution at all. These seem to be the popular stances on the fedi.

A lot of times, we're not even talking about the core challenge, but rather one's bias concerning said core challenge.

There is a lot of effort in trying to contort someone's reality and experiences into something one can easily digest and a lot of times that effort is very violent.

There is no issue that cannot be solved, but rather the main challenge we face is accepting each other's experiences as relevant to our own.

We spend a lot of time trying to get a handle on people by labels, stereotypes, etc etc, but many of them fail to grasp the basic complexity of a person.

This scares the shit out of us.

I tend to stick with the social experiences I know, so where I'm from, the US, this fear is usually expressed with anger and often cruelty, which of course isn't great for the cooperation we need to solve the aforementioned difficult challenges.

I've had to learn the value of social decency and civility b/c it doesn't come so natural to me and I've had to defend myself for most of my life.

But I'm learning kindness and decency really is a revolutionary act.


Ha, yes, I realize I am well known because of the brutality I display when it comes to bigots and I will never apologize for that.

But that intensity comes directly from my desire to build meaningful connections so we can work together to solve some long standing issues that plague all of us.

Sexism, racism, homophobia, transphobia, etc are directly perpendicular to the concept of collaboration that we need to survive.

And as I like living, I'm always going to be uncompromising with hate.

But beyond just keeping my head on a swivel when it comes to hate and intolerance, we gotta make spaces for us to be able for us to talk about the hard things.

Our purpose cannot be solely to thwart bigots, but rather to create environments that don't go toxic when we disagree about fundamental topics.

And this is the work. This is the hard part. Because we've been conditioned to believe we are so far apart.

But the reality is we have a lot more in common than not.

I'm not an optimist because I just refuse to believe we have problems that aren't fixable.

I'm an optimist because I exist, as we all do if we want to keep it real, we've gotten here because people HAVE taken the challenge to figure out how to work together. We're here because cooperation is the norm, not the exception.

It takes effort to remind ourselves of this reality of our existence because so many of us are not ok.

But we can be if we figure out how to be decent to each other.

Making spaces where we can talk is a great and necessary step in the evolution of social media, but it is also exposing how much we lack in the way of making authentic connections with each other.

This isn't a social media issue. It's a people issue.

We've been taught to consume identities in easy digestible chunks but we're learning not only is it that simple, but it's far more complex that we thought.

Yes, it's scary, but now we're getting to the heart of what is keeping us apart.

Yeah, I've taken my lumps, scraps and bruises just like everyone else. Hell, probably even more than my share.

But every inch we gain in trying to understand other people, their cultures and their experiences gets us ever so closer to that moment our differences and similarities synthesize in a way where we don't have to so frightened of each other and we can just be.

I think this is worth every tear, bruise cut and gash I have endured.

It's hard as fuck, but that's the path forward.

We're here because the generations before is got a little closer to understanding the fundamental things that bring us together.

Not in a generic WE'RE ALL HUMANS kind of way, but rather in such a manner where we all have space to exist and be.

The work is hard, but we're getting ever so closer to finding those answers.

That's why every inch matters. Every small kindness counts.

That's why all of this matters. We're doing things that just have never been done before.

Strong thread, thanks 👏 On optimism/pessimism . .

I have pessimism, top of the stack. We're the animal can fuck stuff up big time, maxing out on greed & hatred & delusional expectations. We find that easy. Our buttons get pushed.

Underrneath is profound optimism, bcos of the beauty we can hold, the open-heartedness, compassion and profound balance we humans can aspire to and reach, with wise effort. On a good day. Sometimes. Pessimism cycle!

Good days to you, in churning times!

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