I say this as a cis dude. Using another person's proper pronouns costs us _nothing_. It's just common courtesy.

Refusing to do so just makes you an asshole. The math isn't complicated on this one.

@Are0h sure it's the polite thing to do tho as tempting as it sounds to make being an asshole illegal, that's where the issue starts

@Are0h heckin’ this, man.

and neither some half-assed understanding of high school biology, nor a selective reading of a religious figure that could aptly be called an ur-SJW is going to change an iota on that math.

@gekitsu Hard agree. Folks want to get puffy about it, but it just is what it is.

If you want to be an ass, then fine, but don't complain when you're treated like one.

@Are0h I'm nonbinary & I use they/them, I really appreciate the support!

@Are0h It's simple. Like if a dude named James doesn't want you to call him Jimmy.

And if you slip and call him Jim and he corrects you, you say sorry and thanks you'll try harder.

@faehnrich @Are0h Exactly this. I make mistakes all the time. It's embarrassing when it happens, and I really do make a conscious effort to comply with the requests of others.

When (not if) a mistake is made, how you handle that situation is what determines the kind of person you really are. Either you gracefully accept the correction, integrate the lesson, and adjust accordingly; OR, you react with spiteful derision. The former is generally a good person to be with; the other insufferable.

@faehnrich @Are0h Regrettably, I grew up in a conservative household that was racist and sexist. So, for me, I have 16+ years of habit and upbringing to consciously kick.

I do not mind one bit. Accepting and working with my fallibilities makes me a better person. Over the years, I've gotten a lot better at using correct pronouns automatically. I rarely have to think about it anymore.

@vertigo @Are0h hey you can't control where you grew up, you overcame more, considering

@Are0h I even use them if I suspect they may be trolling (had a friend from college who insisted on vi/vim pronouns and I’m pretty sure it’s because vi wanted to make a less obvious attack helicopter joke rather than because those were the best pronouns for vimself)

@Are0h They really want it both ways. I don't care too much if someone doesn't want to use my preferred pronouns--that's their choice I guess--but they can't then turn around and pretend they're not being a dick!

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